How To Get Her Back... The
Starting Points Of Any Relationship Repair Strategy
by George Karanastasis, M.D.
you’re currently going through a breakup and don’t know
how to get her back then let me help you get started on
the right foot. Before you can even think of planning a
relationship repair strategy you must take into account
the following four factors:
The length of the relationship
The exact time since the breakup occurred
The reason for the breakup
The sequence of events that occurred since the
breakup (e.g. mistakes you’ve made and her reactions
why is it so important to take the above into
consideration first before attempting to get her
back? It’s quite simple actually: these are the exact 4
factors that will determine your unique strategy
for getting your girl back from this moment forward.
Because no matter what anyone tells you… every
relationship is different. What worked for someone else
won’t necessarily work for you. So while you can’t take
a “canned approach” with your particular case… what you
can (and should) do is take your current circumstances
and use them to formulate a strategy that maximizes your
chances of success.
example, the length of the relationship… why is this so
important? Because this defines how fast you must act to
win her back and how much leeway you have with making
mistakes. As a general rule of thumb, the longer the
relationship was the more you can afford to step back
and let time take its healing role without fear of
losing her altogether. In contrast, if you’ve only been
dating for a couple of weeks then giving her 3 months of
space will not help your situation much.
why is the time since the breakup so important? Because
time works directly against you when you’re trying to
get her back. So the shorter relationship was the faster
you must put your strategy in place.
the reason for the breakup… did she break up with you
because you were too needy or because you didn’t pay her
enough attention? Why is this important? Because it
determines how aggressively you should pursue her.
example, if your breakup resulted from not giving her
enough attention and you haven’t made the classic
mistake of begging her back, then you need to actively
attempt to solve your differences. However, if neediness
on your part was the culprit in ending your relationship
then backing off is the approach of choice.
finally, the events that occurred since the breakup…
these are everything from errors made on your part
(begging, pleading, etc.) to steps she’s taken towards
getting back together; in general they’re the
circumstances that take your relationship and make it
completely different from everybody else’s.
while attempting to cover these events is beyond the
scope of this article keep one thing in mind: never try
to “reinvent the wheel”. If something is working for you
or has worked in the past then use it as part of your
strategy. If not, then dump it and take the opposite
conclusion, no matter how unique your particular breakup
scenario is, it’s more than possible to come up with an
effective strategy on how to get her back by taking the
4 starting points and putting them together to maximize
your chances of success.
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